Come to think of it, there were some pretty bad times before Carey, too, though. Like when Gambit blamed Rogue for his blinding and then Death Gambit, etc. To me other examples of the writers not understanding either of them. Carey at least did away with Death Gambit without much fuss. . . Then it just all crashed again. I wonder though if Carey tends to be labeled as "where it started" because people feel that Rogue and Magneto, at least, came out of it appearing more dominant and in control than Gambit, so it felt a bit more degrading and pronounced?
Remembering all of this, it kinda begins to bug me that none of it's really brought up, when, as far as I know, it's still as canonical as Rogneto and just as irritating. I'm not talking about here, I'm just venting some frustrations that have built up for years. I'd like to just pretend none of it happened either, but unless a serious reboot is announced, it all still happened. Like, a lot of KT's run (again, most of which I loved) centered around the problems Rogue has perpetrated in the relationship, like Antarctica, running off, etc. Of course these things should be brought up, but come to think of it, it does kind of feel like Gambit is there to just nod and go along without having to face up to the stuff he's done in the same sessions. Rogue's actions like Antarctica and Magneto constantly need explaining and long conversations about, but Gambit's blaming of her and his actually trying to kill her don't? Could be mis-remembering though. It's been a while since I've read them.
This isn't to say that a blame game should start. Quite the opposite; both characters have been the victims of bad writing, often at the same time. It's been going on for too long, and I think purplevit sums it up in saying ROMY isn't the problem; bad writers and editors are.
